S*E*X

There's no getting around it. This subject is huge and will inevitably inspire a variety of reactions. We all have our ideas and beliefs about this subject. And just like you, I am entitled to mine. 
My belief comes from the beginning.

Historically, men and women never used to have sex unless their union was authenticated by God. In this day and age (thousands of years later) we call that marriage. Its only over time that the idea and action of sex has been diluted to "anyone and everyone". But lets get real - this is the reality for most things now. We (humans) have taken original things and over time have mixed them up and in with our own desires, beliefs, and ideals. A custom designed reality - good enough for the moment! (because lets be honest, we change our minds, and adopt new ideals as we grow up). Some of you reading this are wondering why this is a problem, after all freedom to choose is your right - right? But if you could take a moment to look past your self-righteousness, surely even you can see that the world used to be a much better place before it got so complicated. On many different levels. That is because the way it was originally, was the way it was always supposed to be. 

Love is another good example of this.

Love finds its origins in God, yet sometimes in this day and age, love becomes a tool or an excuse for those who allow themselves to manipulate or be manipulated. This is a perfect example of how humans have taken something Godly, mixed it up with the world which has concocted disastrous results, only for them to turn around when everything turns to custard, and blame the very thing that defines God. “Oh but I love him, and he loves me, and because our love is so strong we really feel that it is ok to express ourselves in a more deep and meaningful way – by making love. God will understand – after all he is Love.” Blah blah blah.

And then the deal is done, soul ties are created and consequences fall hard. “I can’t believe he left me, especially for that woman who sleeps with anyone. I thought he loved me!!! OHHHH I will never, never for as long as I live – EVER love again!!!” And this is just the beginning of a twisted tale that if at all possible, would make it to the Guinness book of records for the most repeated story in all of history.

Most of the time, we women (and men too of course) are left crumpled and lying in our own custom designed stinky sewer, with only the stench of self-induced consequence to keep us company. More often than not we end up throwing a grandiose pity party, wondering what on earth we did to deserve such an unfair lot in life. After all, you did nothing but love this person!! And what do you get in return? Maybe a painful STD? On unwanted pregnancy? How about no support from your partner when it was time to visit the abortion clinic? Or even a cheating partner who flaunts his or her new conquest in your face? Of course a broken heart, and if your really unfortunate, a trip to the hospital for reproductive complications, which may even lead to a Hysterectomy? Which will obviously lead to Pain…Disappointment…more often than not these days, the growing concept of Solo parenthood.  Then there is disconnection from God maybe? Psychotherapy? Trust issues? Future dysfunctional relationships? Low self esteem? Inability to care for your children? Anger resulting in abuse? Soul ties? Inability to heal? Rejection of Love? Insanity – Maybe a trip to the mental institution? Drug and alcohol abuse? Suicidal tendencies? Disconnecting from those who love you? Death?????

Or maybe God’s gift to you taken in vain - Your VIRGINITY which is something you will NEVER get back.

All of these things may be a little “far out” for some of you reading this, but I can assure you they are very real consequences, faced my thousands of men and women everywhere, and if you look closely you may be able to identify with at least one of these symptoms, if not more. For sadly many of these things come in package deals which is all the more devastating. These are the very things that happen in reality when you engage sex before it is meant to be engaged. And yes people, the answer will remain the same no matter how many times you ask the question….Sex is not meant to be shared outside of marriage. There are many reasons why, and in the last few paragraphs I have shared with you, why you shouldn’t. These are just a few of the reasons why you shouldn’t, but I think it is just as important to explore why it is that God sanctifies marriage as being the not-negotiable way for two people to come together with such intimacy in more depth…
please read on.